Disclaimer: I wrote this blog in 2021 and it’s now 2023 and I have no idea why I didn’t just post it. My last break up was actually in 2017, since that year my heart has healed so much and I only have Jesus to thank. Here’s a snippet of my feelings that I’ve felt in the past. I hope you enjoy. Please know that you will get through this.
You are too brilliant, brave, beautiful and wild for someone to be unsure about you.
Time goes on, Jesus heals.
Ride the wave or rollercoaster of emotion that you’re on, feel everything – please don’t bottle it up or compartmentalise.
In the moments where I delayed my heartbreak, I lost focus on Him. In the times where my heartbreak was healed the most, I took it straight to Him and never looked back. I think it’s important to be in the mind-set of having full faith in His healing power, it is not necessary to be in that place, but it sure does help. In moments where I know I have to bring something to the Lord, I tell Him outright exactly what I’m dealing with in as much detail as possible. I will probably cry the river Nile, sob, get frustrated and have deliverance and all of the pain and the hurt, I will give to Him. It can be a process and only I can make it a longer process than I need it to but it is a process worth going through, worth being refined through and worth experiencing. “The thing about pain. It demands to be felt” this Fault in Our Stars quote has been such a memorable string of words for me since the first time I heard it until now. It is true, it demands to be felt, so cry. Cry for as long as you like, yell, journal, scream into a pillow, take a long walk and pick at a tree bark. However long it takes, don’t try to keep it in. Pain is our body’s response to something not being quite right within our bodies. So feel it, give it to the Lord, ask Him for healing.
Do not let heartbreak defeat you, define you or lie to you and tell you that things won’t get better and that this is all there is because I can tell you right now that it most certainly is not all that there is and if we are looking to step into who God has called us to be, we need to not be ruled by heartbreak, we need to not be ruled by our past, our struggles, our pain – everything that is in opposition to who God says you are has no place, has no authority, Jesus conquered it all on the cross. Pray and surround yourself in His presence.